One father is fighting back after being told it's "creepy" that he takes his daughter on weekly father/daughter "dates." According to an article by Jeff Reynolds on PJ Media, feminist columnists from the UK have been writing about the ways in which daddy/daughter dates are enforcing a patriarchal society and we should stop giving men "gold stars" for spending time with their children.
Father Daughter Relationships. As a feminist, it's difficult to say this, but some people really need to calm their tatas. To take offense to something as essential as father/daughter bonding is just plain ignorant.
Jeff's Story. According to the article by Reynolds, he regularly participates in a church organized group with his daughter that promotes bonding time for fathers and daughters. Reynolds says he hopes the "dates" show his daughter, "a strong model of how my daughter should expect to be treated." (Everyone together now, "Awwww")
So What's The Beef? So what's the beef with men having date nights with their daughters? Reynolds quotes one columnist as saying it is "everything that is wrong in the world." Well geez, dads. Who knew you were so problematic?
Glorified Babysitters. Basically, what the writer says in her article, father daughter dates reduce dads to nothing more than glorified babysitters. Ouch. "It makes father daughter time into a rarity. It reduces a man to nothing more than a babysitter. It sends the message that by hanging out with his child a man is doing something noteworthy or even strange," Reynolds quotes the columnist.
Parenting. In fairness, men who spend one-on-one time with their daughters (or sons) ARE doing something noteworthy. It's called parenting, and they're #crushingit. What - moms don't do the same with "spa days" or "mother daughter shopping trips"? (Equally noteworthy by the way.)
Gold Stars All Around. Apparently some take issue with the wording part of "daddy daughter date". Reynolds goes on to quote the haters as saying, "By all means, spend some quality time with your children. But don't use the language of an adult sexual relationship to describe it, and let's stop handing out gold stars to any man who wants to spend some time with his kid." I mean, if we're handing out gold stars, this guy should get about 20 - but seriously, can I have some too? I like gold stars. Parents like to hear they're awesome sometimes too.
Adult Sexual Language? Why though, does it have to be adult sexual language to call it a "date"? You can't have a "date" with your friends? If you go on a "date", does that automatically mean something sexual? Because if it does, maybe it's time we re-defined what it meant to have a "date". It's not about sexual connotations in any sense of the word. If it is for you, then I'm guessing maybe you have a few deeper issues you should tackle inwardly before projecting your issues onto innocent fathers and daughters enjoying their time on their dates.
Creepy? Others yet claim it's just plain "creepy". You know, it really makes me wonder what the h*** happened to project the worst and miss the best. "These aren't sweet. They aren't cute. They're creepy, and they seek to enforce patriarchal notions of femininity," Reynolds quotes another writer. Ouch. I think someone needs a hug.